If you’re a mum, chances are your idea of “me-time” looks something like locking yourself in the bathroom and doom-scrolling your phone (or just staring at the mirror) for five minutes while tiny hands bang on the door, or sipping cold coffee while pretending not to see the laundry pile glaring at you. Sound familiar?
Let’s be real—your daily schedule is already overflowing with school runs, meal preps, work deadlines, and the endless game of “Where Did That Shoe Go?” Finding time for self-care probably feels as realistic as a toddler sleeping through the night. But here’s the thing: you can’t pour from an empty cup. And no, that doesn’t mean chugging another coffee (though, let’s be honest, coffee does help).
This Mother’s Day, let’s take a moment to acknowledge that YOU deserve the very best kind of care.
Self-care isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity. And the good news? It doesn’t have to involve expensive spa days, elaborate routines, or a secret stash of hidden snacks (though we fully support that). It’s about making small, guilt-free moments just for you, because when you feel good, you parent even better. So, let’s talk about how to make self-care actually fit into your busy, messy, beautiful life.
Find What Refuels You
Self-care looks different for everyone—it’s as unique as your family’s laundry pile. Some people recharge by sweating it out at the gym, while others need rest and relaxation on the not-so-ergonomic couch. The key is to find what works for you, not what Instagram says is the “perfect” self-care routine. So, whether it’s a burst of energy or some much-needed rest, make sure to build those moments into your day, because you deserve to feel human again.
Quick, Effective Self-Care Ideas
Massage Therapy
Let’s face it, there are days when you need a pro to work the knots out of your shoulders and your soul. In-home massages? Heck yes! Get the relaxation you deserve without leaving the house.
Sometimes the best way to relieve stress and physical tension is with the help of a professional. In-home massage services from Blys offer a convenient way to unwind without the need to leave the house. A few minutes of relaxation can go a long way in helping you reset both mentally and physically. If you know a mum (or dad, we don’t discriminate) who’s been needing some down time, book a relaxing in-home massage here.
Movement and Solo Walks
Who says you need to be at a gym to get your body moving? Dance around the kitchen, bust out a quick yoga stretch, or chase the kids around the park. Every step counts as self-care. Pop in your favourite podcast and take a solo stroll around the block. A change of scenery—and some fresh air—can do wonders for your mindset.
Nutrition & Hydration
While that cup of coffee may be your lifeline, don’t forget the importance of hydration. Drinking water throughout the day helps to keep your energy levels stable. And while it’s tempting to snack on your kids’ leftovers, try to incorporate a healthier snack into your routine that will leave you feeling refreshed and fueled.
Entertainment Without Multitasking
Sometimes, self-care can be as simple as taking a break from multitasking. Allow yourself the time to watch an episode of your favourite show or read a book, without feeling like you need to fold laundry or check emails at the same time. This undistracted moment of entertainment can help you unwind and enjoy your downtime more fully.
Creative Outlets
Engaging in creative activities such as painting, journaling, or gardening can be an excellent way to switch off from the stress of daily tasks. Whether it’s expressing yourself through art or just enjoying a peaceful moment in nature, creative activities can help you clear your head and reconnect with yourself.
DIY Self-Care Rituals
Sometimes, the best self-care happens in the comfort of your own home. Light a candle, take a long bath, or apply a soothing face mask. You can even treat yourself to an in-home facial or beauty treatment, where a professional comes to you—no spa trip required. These simple rituals, whether it’s a luxurious beauty treatment or a quiet moment to unwind, allow you to carve out time for yourself and give your body and mind a break from the demands of the day. You can even gift a mum you know, or yourself a Blys gift card that’s applicable for any mode of self-care available on Blys.
Pro Tip: Keep a list of “5-minute self-care ideas” handy so when you catch a brief moment of calm, you don’t waste it wondering what to do. Of course you won’t keep the title as such, so get creative. Whether it’s a stretch, a quick podcast, or just 5 minutes of silence, your list will have your back.
Set Realistic Self-Care Goals
Self-care doesn’t have to be a grand, time-consuming affair. The secret to making it work is consistency. The goal is to weave small, manageable acts of self-care into your daily routine, so it becomes second nature. Here’s how to get started:
Daily Self-Care Goals:
- Aim to drink more water throughout the day (your body will thank you, and yes, caffeine is lovely, but water is essential!).
- You don’t need a full workout session to make a difference. Stretch, take a walk, or dance in your living room for a few minutes.
- Take 5 minutes for yourself, whether it’s deep breathing, journaling, or simply sitting in silence to reset your mind.
Weekly Self-Care Goals:
- Block out an hour in your week for something that genuinely helps you unwind. Whether it’s a massage, a long soak in the bath, or diving into a hobby, make sure you take this time for yourself.
- Give yourself a night off from the kitchen and order your favourite takeout or try a meal delivery service.
- Social connections are important. Plan a catch-up with friends over coffee, or have a phone chat with someone you haven’t spoken to in a while.
Monthly Self-Care Goals:
- Book a professional massage, plan a date night, or have a solo shopping trip without anyone asking for snacks. You deserve it!
- Tidy up a small space in your home. A decluttered area can help clear your mind and boost your mood.
- Challenge yourself with a fun new activity—whether it’s trying a new recipe, diving into a different genre of books, or exploring a new self-care treatment. If you want to sneak in self-care as a date idea with your partner to escape from the chaos once in a while, book an in-home couple’s massage session.
At the start of each week, jot down one small act of self-care you’ll prioritise each day. It could be as simple as taking a moment to stretch, reading a chapter of a book, or enjoying a cup of tea. The key is to keep it realistic and attainable.
Master the Art of Saying ‘No’
One of the most underrated self-care hacks? Boundaries. And trust us, they are your best friend when it comes to preserving your time, energy, and sanity.
- You don’t need to bake cookies for every school event. It’s kind, but not your responsibility.
- You don’t have to say yes to every favour. Your plate is already full.
- You don’t need to answer emails at 10 PM. The world will keep spinning until tomorrow.
The reality is, if something isn’t essential and it’s draining your energy, it’s perfectly okay to say no. Saying ‘no’ isn’t about being rude—it’s about protecting your time and mental health, which are crucial to your well-being. Remember, self-care is all about putting yourself first when necessary.
If saying ‘no’ feels uncomfortable, try this: “I’d love to, but I just can’t take that on right now.” It’s polite, firm, and takes away the guilt—because, honestly, you don’t need to feel guilty for making yourself a priority.
Make Self-Care a Non-Negotiable (Like Brushing Your Teeth)
We all know the importance of brushing our teeth—it’s a habit so ingrained in our routine that it requires little thought. And yet, when it comes to self-care, many of us treat it like an optional extra rather than a must-have daily ritual. But here’s the truth: self-care deserves the same priority as brushing your teeth.
Why? Because just like brushing your teeth ensures your oral health, taking time for self-care guarantees your emotional, physical, and mental well-being. It’s not a luxury, nor is it selfish—it’s essential.
Here’s how you can make self-care as automatic as brushing your teeth:
- Schedule It Like an Appointment: The first step to making self-care a non-negotiable is putting it on your calendar. Whether it’s 10 minutes for a quick stretch, a 30-minute massage, or a quiet bath, treat your self-care time like a scheduled meeting. It’s something that has to happen. If you’re someone who tends to get caught up in the daily hustle and skip your “me time,” scheduling it in advance makes it a concrete part of your day.
- Set Reminders: Life is busy, and it’s easy to forget—it’s not just the age. To make sure you stick to your self-care routine, use reminders. This can be as simple as setting an alarm on your phone, writing it in your planner, or leaving sticky notes around the house as visual cues. If you’re not good at remembering to take breaks or carve out time for yourself, these prompts will gently nudge you back into focus. You can also use an accountability partner—a friend or family member who can check in and remind you to put yourself first.
- Involve the Whole Family: Self-care doesn’t have to be an individual pursuit. In fact, making it a family affair (unlike other things) can be a great way to set a positive example and encourage healthy habits for everyone. Ask your kids or partner what their self-care routines look like, and work together to create time where everyone gets to unwind. Whether it’s a 15-minute mindfulness session, a stretch break, or even a family walk around the block, sharing self-care moments fosters a culture of wellness within the household.
Find a “self-care accountability partner” (a friend, spouse, or even an online group) who can check in with you weekly. Make sure you’re both following through on your self-care goals. Whether it’s a virtual chat or a quick text, having someone else involved can keep you motivated and on track. Find this useful? Share this blog with your mum, or anyone who really needs a boost to build a self-care routine!
You Deserve to Prioritise Yourself
Being a mum, caregiver, or family rockstar is a full-time gig, but that doesn’t mean you should run on empty. It’s easy to put everyone else’s needs first, but remember—you can’t pour from an empty cup. Prioritising yourself isn’t indulgent; it’s absolutely essential for your well-being.
Self-care doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming. Start small, stay consistent, and always remind yourself that taking care of you will only make you an even better version of the superhero you already are.
So go ahead, make time for yourself:
✅ Schedule that massage—you deserve it!
✅ Sip that tea (or wine, no judgement).
✅ Finish your coffee while it’s still warm—because you deserve a break.
With Mother’s Day coming up, it’s your time to give mum the gift of wellness with Blys gift cards. Applicable for in-home massage, facials, or even mani-pedis, and starting from the value of £30, this is the perfect gesture to show mum she needs to take care of herself and feel her best for a change.
